The ceremony of Naik Kahwin or Bersanding is the climax of the whole wedding ceremonies. It is “The Wedding Ceremony”, and is held on a day and date mutually agreed to by the families of the groom and the bride. It is held usually at the bride’s home.Before the bride and groom are dressed up and adorned with ornaments they have to undergo the ceremony of bersiram first. This ceremony of bathing the bride and groom is similar to all other bersiram ceremonies undergone by both during the wedding. After the bathing ceremony, each one is groomed carefully so as to look radiantly beautiful. The hair is combed and set, and the face meticulously made up.The Alat Kebesaran Diraja or Royal Decoration is used during the ceremony of naik kahwin is the same as in previous ceremonies, and is based on the social ranking of the person hosting the ceremony.During the ceremony of naik kahwin or bersanding both the bride and groom are, seated on special dais built at specific place in the istana or house of the bride. Once seated side by side on the bridal dais the ceremony is completed by a prayer of thanks read by designated religious official.Both the bride and groom are dressed up elaborately and adorned with traditional ornaments, fit for a king and queen. The couple is labelled as the King and Queen for the day, and as such is accorded a grand reception, with pomp and honour.For a Royal wedding the arrival of the Sultan, Raja Isteri, Pengiran Isteri or other wives of the Sultan, would be accompanied by the Perhiasan Tunggal. They will be followed by the Royal Family accompanied by the Perhiasan Empat. However before this, an advance delegation from the groom’s side would come to the bride’s place to assess and report back to the groom’s family the state of readiness at the bride’s place.Once ready the bride would be led into the ceremonial place by a delegation of designated ladies, and upon arrival at the bridal dais the leader of the delegation would escort the bride to take her seat on the bridal dais. The leader of the delegation would then take the rightful seat in the assembly.In the meantime the groom’s delegation would be arriving at the bride’s istana or place of residence where the ceremony of Naik Kahwin is held. Upon arrival, the groom would be met by the designated religious official and would be invited to alight from his car or carriage. Once alighted and before entering into the istana or house, the groom would perform the Pusar Naga Ceremony, whereby the groom is made to turn anticlockwise on the spot three times. The groom then led into the istana or house, together with his delegation. However before entering the entrance or door, the groom undergoes another ceremony called ‘membasuh kaki’ – the washing of the groom’s feet with water filled in a special kiri (receptacle resembling a pitcher). This is followed by the sprinkling of yellow rice that is parried with a kiap (a kind of fan).The groom is then escorted to the bridal dais and upon coming face to face with the bride, the escort (the same designated religious official who met the groom at the car and had been leading and escorting the groom since) would take the Tumpang Adap-adapan from the groom’s delegation and put it at its rightful place on the bridal dais infront of the groom’s seat. The escort then takes both hands of the groom and placed them for a moment on the brides head. Simultaneously with the placing of the groom’s hands onto the bride’s head, the Royal cannon would fire the royal-salute, the number of shots fired would be dependant on the noble ranking of the person hosting the wedding. And while the gun salute is progressing the groom is invited to take his seat beside the bride on the dais. The seating of the couple side by side (bersanding) denotes the end of the ceremony and a prayer of thanks is read by designated religious dignitary.For the Royal wedding, the next step would be for the designated Pehin Manteri (usually it is the Pehin Orang Kaya Di-Gadong Seri Diraja or Seri Lela) to convey to the designated Royal Dignitary (usually it is the Pengiran Pemancha or Pengiran Maharaja Lela) that the wedding ceremony has been safely concluded and humbly request for further instruction from the Sultan as Head of Ceremony. Once the assent is received from the Sultan as the Head of ceremony, the Royal couple is invited to step down from the bridal dais to the place of rest inside the istana or house.The assembly is then dispersed.
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